Drawing the line...

I had heard this saying somewhere a few months back - 'People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you will know exactly what to do'.


But it is always easier said than done. How do you let go off someone who was there in your life for some time - be it just for a reason or a season? For people like me it is hard and next to impossible. The emotional and caring me, gets on to me and refuses to listen to any philosophy or reasoning justifying this particular act. Many a times, I would be the first one who would go and apologize in case of any argument or would try and make up a conversation(even after I call myself an introvert) or come up with various ways of confronting the person involved and ask what went wrong. This definitely is not as easy as it sounds. Letting go off your ego is one big thing in us humans, and we generally don't sacrifice it for anyone or anything. But for me its opposite. It's always my friends and ego next.


Recently I have learnt a new thing though. I have learnt to 'Draw a line!'. It's when you realize that it is finally time to stop hurting yourself first than trying not to hurt others by not pulling away. If distance is what it takes to keep calm, so be it. If distance is what your friend wants, even after numerous tries, so be it. The more you run behind someone, the more desperate you sound and it is generally taken in a negative sense - like you can't survive without that someone when what you are actually trying to do is save the relationship. Let them go. If they are meant to be with you, they will come back no matter what. Else, they were never meant to be with you. (Another random piece philosophy shit I know, but I does work!) I did it with two very special friends in my life. One came back, and one never bothered to. I let the other one go, even though I still miss that friend. Probably the reason was fulfilled.